It is not unusual, especially for mums, to feel overwhelmed by the ceaseless juggling that is motherhood whether you work or not. Whether we use the metaphor of the juggler or the plate spinner we should be aware that both these are skills so difficult that people train hard and others are impressed when they witness the skill at a circus.
Let me tell you something you may not know about juggling. In order to successfully learn to juggle you have to learn how to drop a ball (or an apple!) I know this because this is what I found the hardest part of the skill. As a busy mum I found it impossible to deliberately drop something in order to complete the larger task of juggling.
This metaphor is relevant to our lives in that if you too want to successfully juggle you must drop something deliberately because you want to drop it and because you know in your heart that by doing that, you will succeed in the bigger picture of what you want to achieve.
But what will you drop?
Everything seems important when you feel overwhelmed doesn’t it?
How can you just ‘not do’ something?
People rely on you.
Your kids rely on you.
Your husband relies on you.
Your mum relies on you.
Your boss relies on you.
But hang on……………if you were ill what would they do? Surely unless you put yourself, your health and wellbeing, happiness, rest and relaxation in top spot you will be in no position to be relied on by anyone.
Stand back now and consider all you do and have to do this week.
Which ball will you drop so you can successfully juggle?
Instead of listing everything you ‘should do’ ask yourself “What could I do?” Give yourself choices. So look again at what is currently overwhelming you and ask.
What can you do?
What can you delegate?
And what can you dump?
Now let that ball drop and you will be able to juggle.
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