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Judy Bartkowiak’s book NLP Back to Work takes the principles of Neuro Linguistic Programming to explore areas such as identity, confidence, guilt, coping with change and limiting beliefs and treating failure as feedback.

Sensory Acuity is the way we internally represent our world. Are you visual, auditory or kinaesthetic? Do you like detail or big picture? Do you notice what works or what doesn’t work? Do you like choices? Are you goal driven or risk averse? In this book you will find out how you tick, what beliefs and values matter to you and how to overcome limiting beliefs using NLP techniques such as the Time Line, anchoring and Perceptual Positioning. All the exercises are easy to do, explained without jargon and the book is an easy read for busy mums.

In the Time Management section you will be invited to check whether what you do fits with your values and encourages you to delegate or do what fits and dump what does not fit.

There are plenty of ideas of jobs and businesses that are aligned to what you want from life at this time and suggestions of areas to explore on your own.

NLP Back to Work costs £6.99 in the shops or £5 if you get it from Judy’s NLP website by clicking HERE

If you’d like to book a SKYPE or telephone coaching session click HERE

Email me at judy@nlpkids.com

I will send you a copy of the first chapter completely FREE

Here’s a copy of the contents page

Part 1 – Basic NLP principles

1. Introduction to NLP – what is NLP, ground rules, Modelling and why NLP is great for your children

2. Identity – who am I? What do I want? Questionnaire What does it all mean?

3. Communicating – Achieving the desired response, rapport, negotiating skills, giving and receiving support, embracing change

4. Time Management – valuing your time, prioritizing, coping with guilt, ‘me’ time, delegating

Part 2 – Applying NLP at home

5. Lack of confidence – coping with fear of failure, not being a good mother, embarrassment, Envy, Knowing your strengths, giving your child confidence, supporting schoolwork, friends

6. Guilty feelings – not enough time for the children, children not eating well, coping with fear and anxiety

7. Coping with change – going back to work, not going back to work, stay at home dad, then there were two, moving house, changing schools, divorce/separation/illness/death, death of a pet

8. Coping with conflict – sibling rivalry, bullying, disobedience, jealousy and anger, internal conflicts, pester power

9. Teenagers – communicating with your teenager, teaching teenagers to be streetwise, sexual issues

You can buy my book direct from me for the RRP of £9.99 or $15 using PayPal and I will pay the postage but you will need to email me for the PayPal address judy@nlpkids.com  Let me know if you’d like me to sign it for you!

• ‘I can’t!’ challenging limiting beliefs and fears
• Focusing on what works and being solution focused
• Having compelling outcomes – positive thinking and reframing, using feedback as learning

The cost is £12 per session including a copy of NLP for Children or NLP for Teens.

Location is Burnham, Bucks

Call 01628 660618 to book

Monday, Tuesday and Thursday are for children 7-11yrs

Wednesday and Friday for  children aged 12-15yrs

I wrote these after writing Teach Yourself : Be a happier parent with NLP because I felt there was a need for more of a workbook style of NLP book aimed at specific needs

Parents

Children

Teachers

Teenagers

New Mums

Back to Work

They are all quick reads for busy people who want to know how they can use NLP in their lives to tackle the sort of issues they have. The books are illustrated and offer helpful exercises you can do using the NLP techniques. Each exercise gives instructions and space to write down your thoughts.

The children’s book NLP for children is for you and your child to work through together. The ideal age for this is for a child aged about 4-11yrs and obviously a child aged 9-11yr can read and use the book on their own.

The teenage book is written for them to use to address issues they have around school or Uni, work, getting a job, peer group pressure, relationships and so on.

The Back to Work book is perfect for mums thinking about whether to go back to work or not or consider other options such as working freelance, starting their own business or taking on activities which may in time become businesses.

New Mums covers everything connected with pregnancy, childbirth and those early months giving you ways to manage tiredness, stress and the roller coaster of emotions we get at this time. I remember it well!

They are called Engaging NLP because they are workbooks and I want you to engage with them, use them and learn from them in a way I don’t feel existing NLP books can be used. Indeed the Teach Yourself book packed full as it is with everything you could possibly encounter as a parent, is a solid read and not a workbook despite it having exercises in it.

As well as being a mum of 4 children (now aged 11, 19, 22 and 23) and a former teacher, I am a Master Practitioner in NLP and a Trainer. I run workshops and offer NLP coaching on a one to one basis either face to face or via SKYPE or phone but I believe that by reading my books you will find the help you are looking for. If you still need some support please call me (01628 660618 or 00 44 1628 660618) or email me (judy@nlpkids.com) or contact me via the contact form because the reason I write the books and work with children and teenagers (and their parents) is because I care and I want to empower you to be happier parents and for your children to have the skills at their fingertips to be happier children.

NLP has long been used in the workplace but I feel that it is an essential parenting tool because being a parent is, I believe, the most important role we have in life. What we do and say, how we behave and the beliefs we pass on to our children make an enormous impact. They are constantly changing as are we as we learn and experience new things. These books are there for you , to help you in this important role. If I can help you further just get in touch. I don’t charge for a quick phone call or email you know!

If you’ve heard of NLP it’s probably been in the context of business where the principles of Neuro linguistic programming seem to be given more prominence because people associate the results with success in business relationships in management, selling and so on. In fact, NLP is extremely useful in family life and by applying the core principles we can achieve clearer communication of our needs and ensure they are met in an ecological way, that is to everyone’s benefit not just ours!

Whether your pregnancy is planned or unplanned, changes are happening to your body, your mind, your relationships and your future. So how can NLP help?

Well according to NLP we have the resources to do whatever we set our mind to but we may not realise it or recognise the resource. Let’s say for example that you are finding it difficult to keep the secret of your pregnancy at work and you’re afraid you will blurt it out to someone before you’re ready. So when you last had a secret how did you keep it? Maybe someone told you a secret about something and you kept it. How did you do that? What belief did you have about the secret? Do you hold that belief about the secret of your pregnancy? Could you hold that belief? If you change your belief you will change the behaviour associated with the belief.

Are you feeling worried about the birth? How have you coped with other similar events? Have you been able to overcome your worry about another event? How did you succeed in doing that? Could you try the same process this time?

It feels now as if what you are experiencing is all quite new and different and a bit scary. Try to find another situation where you had those feelings. Maybe you felt like this on the first day at a new school? Did you feel like this about your wedding day? What about the first day of a new important job?

Close your eyes and think about that time. Picture yourself before that time, a few days before the event and remember how you felt. What about just before, the day before the event, how did you feel then?

What about the actual event itself, how was that? Picture yourself right in the middle of the event at the very worse moment of it. Can you remember what you did and how you got through the day?

Now picture yourself a few days later. How do you look now, how do you feel? Can you notice anything about yourself after the scary feelings had passed? They do pass don’t they? You do have the resource to overcome the fear of change don’t you?

Lots of mums to be feel guilty that though they are excited about the baby they are worried about whether they will be ‘a good mum’. Again I want you to think about your resources. Take a piece of paper and a pen and write down a list of what you do well. You will have lots of different life experiences, work, friends, sport and so on. What do you do well in each of these situations? What would your friends say of you, what do your parents say of you? All of these skills will make you the good mum you want to be. There is no absolute model of what makes a good mum.

Now look at that list and think about how that quality you have identified could be useful and beneficial to you as a mum. Are you good at making people laugh? Are you kind to your friends? Are you someone they can rely on? Do you learn things quickly? Whatever the qualities are that make you who you are now – these will be what will make you a good mum.

Judy is the author of Teach Yourself: Be a happier parent with NLP and the Engaging NLP workbook NLP for New Mums. Both available at Buy NLP Books

Click this LINK to take you to my bookshop where today you can buy all 6 Engaging NLP workbooks for £35 or its equivalent in your own currency.

The books are

NLP for Parents

NLP for Children

NLP for Teens

NLP for Teachers

NLP for New Mums

NLP for Back to  Work (or setting up a business)

If you would prefer another book such as NLP for the 11+ or NLP for Young Drivers instead of any of these books as long as you order 6 and tell me which you want when you pay using PayPal or a Credit Card thenthe offer price of £35 still applies.

I enjoyed writing them and even now, familiar as I am with NLP, I check my app every day and look at the thought. They still connect with me because they are about who we are and that is constantly changing as we meet new people and have new experiences.

I would be enormously grateful if you would post a review of the app and share it with your friends on Twitter or Linked In, Facebook etc

Here is the Android link – Click HERE

Here is the Iphone/Ipad/Ipod  link – Click HERE

The Windows 7 one is on the way!

The pain and trauma of miscarriage leaves us feeling tender and vulnerable and dare I say it, a failure. What sort of woman are we, we cry, if we can’t even carry a baby to full term? What seemed like a very simple thing to do when we were young and didn’t want to become pregnant now seems insurmountable. Everywhere we look, wherever we go, pregnant women appear to parade their bump expressly for our eyes. How do they know?

Our desperation seems to cloud everything we do and say, what we read, where we go and what we focus on. We notice every reference to babies, we hear every cry from a pram and we hunger for that need in us to be satisfied.

But wait, what if how we are feeling is actually STOPPING us from getting pregnant? Have you thought about how, by focussing on what we haven’t got, we end up with precisely that – nothing?

As an NLP Master Practitioner, I specialise in working with families and over the years I have found that when mothers focus on getting pregnant and not on the pain of ‘not getting pregnant’ they seem to unblock a mental barrier and soon I find I am no longer needed and baby number 2 or 3 is on its way.

Second and third time mothers seem more angry and desperate in some ways than first time mothers perhaps because they are surprised it is taking so long and they have no expectation that they might find it harder second time around.

It’s slightly different for first time mothers in that mentally many are not ready for a baby. You may have decided to ‘try for a baby’ or indeed ‘not not try’ but have you thought about how having a baby will fit into your lifestyle? However ‘ready’ some of my clients have been at a practical level, it is clear that emotionally they are not ready for the overwhelming sense of dependence a baby will demand. Many are still enjoying the single life, being competitive at work and feeling very much still the daughter and not yet ready for a family responsibility themselves.

It’s almost as if your body waits for you to calm down, accept this enormous change in your life, prepare it with plenty of rest, good food and exercise and slow down so that change can happen in your body as well.

NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming has helped many women with the process of preparing themselves mentally for life’s changes and challenges. Many clients use NLP with reflexology or hypnotherapy.NLP is essentially a positive life coaching therapy that can have immediate and surprising results. Give it a try.Call me on 01628 660618 to have an initial chat or make an appointment  judy@nlpkids.com and www.nlpkids.com

I  offer coaching by email and Skype and have had some amazing results. SKYPE address judy.bartkowiak

If you’d like to learn more about NLP and pregnancy read NLP for New Mums from the Buy NLP books section of the website or Amazon of course.