This is a great exercise for your 11+ child because it gives them instant confidence when they need it. First tell him that he needs to imagine a circle in front of him on the floor.
Step 1. Ask him how we wants to be when he is sitting his 11+ or when he is doing a practice paper. There is no need to prompt him although you can remind him of anything he has said to you about it such as for example ‘I wish I didn’t feel so scared’ or ‘I wish I could stop shaking’. You need to encourage him to think about what he does want though! Encourage him to say what he does want to feel and write the words down on a piece of paper or post it notes.
Step 2. Take the first word and ask him ‘When do you feel like this?’ It may be in another context or it could be related to school or 11+ work.
Step 3. He is going to anchor this feeling so ask him what action he’d like to make to remind himself of this good feeling. Maybe he wants to squeeze his ear lobe or put his thumb and first finger together.
Step 4. Now ask him to remember having that great feeling, what it looked like, sounded like and felt like. When the feeling is strongest, he’s to step into his imaginary circle and use the action he’s decided upon. When the feeling subsides, take away the action and step back out of the circle and break state – that means give yourself a little shake and think about something else for a moment.
Step 5. Ask him to repeat this a few times until he has made a strong link between the action and the feeling.
Step 6. Now do the same for the other feelings he wants to have and use the same procedure with the same action and stepping into the circle each time.
Step 7. Tell him that whenever he wants these feelings all he has to do is imagine his circle, step into it and make the action. He can take the circle anywhere he wants. The ideal time to use it is of course just before he sits his 11+ but he can use it for practice papers as well.
The circle of excellence can be used extensively and when he wants to add feelings he can repeat the process.
My book ‘Passing the 11+ with NLP’ contains very useful information on how to use NLP for the different question types in the NLP paper, how to develop literacy and numeracy skills for life, not just the 11+ and how to manage all the mixed emotions children will experience as they get close to the test.
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