What would it be like to have a skill, a qualification that you could not only incorporate into your daily life as a parent or teacher but also earn you a living helping other children and teenagers? Become an NLP Practitioner.
Neuro Linguistic Programming is a way of life, a new way of thinking that at first may be a bit ‘clunky’ but as you develop the skills and use them daily you will soon do it without realising. The changes will become automatic and subconscious as you make the transition from unconscious incompetence to unconscious competence.
There are many NLP Practitioner courses and many offer you the world, they promise to make you wealthy or slim, successful, powerful and so on. My courses don’t promise this. My ambition is to train you as an NLP Practitioner so that you will be a calmer happier parent, be a good role model for your kids and have the skills to share them with others.
Neuro is how we think. This is based on our experiences of life, our upbringing, culture, age and those we’ve grown up with. Many people think that this can’t be changed but let me assure you that it can be. Not only that. It will be. As you start to question some of the beliefs you hold and challenge them you will find yourself replacing them with a new and grown up way of thinking that will give you permission to do some of those things you thought you couldn’t do before. You’ll still be YOU so don’t worry that you’ll lose the best bits. It’s those limiting beliefs that we’ll work on; the beliefs that hold you back from being the parent you want to be.
Linguistic is how we talk. It’s the words and phrases we use to communicate. It’s also that irritating little inner voice that tells us where’s getting it all wrong. The words we use matter. They mean something. They reflect the thinking behind them so we need to ensure that we communicate what we want to communicate and nothing else.
Programming is the results. These are the habits and patterns we’ve formed and the things we keep doing even when we know they don’t work. When you learn about NLP you will start to recognise those patterns and find out how to change them so they are more resourceful and get you the results you want.
The NLP Practitioner course that I run starts next Friday 15th at 11am on Skype and will be repeated again shortly if you miss it. There is no cost for this session as it’s just an introduction. It will tell you more about me and about NLP. If you decide to join the course then the cost is £500 or its equivalent in your currency and you can pay in installments if you want. The sessions are weekly and there will be homework. The homework is not so much a written test but it is instead an opportunity for you to explain how you have incorporated that bit of learning into your life and your parenting. I shall be available on Skype to help with any questions or issues you have.
If you decide you want to go on and start your own business in NLP to work with kids then you can take the NLP Kids Practitioner course and there is a discount for those who already have my NLP Practitioner qualification. If you are already a qualified NLP Practitioner with someone else then you can move straight onto the NLP Kids Practitioner course that starts Wednesday again at 11am.
For both course you need to connect with me on Skype. My Skype name is judy.bartkowiak
I look forward to hearing from you soon.
When I say the word ‘exam’ what comes to mind? Do you get a picture in your head? Do you hear something? Or do you feel something? Being aware of whether you are visual, auditory or kinaesthetic can help you manage your reactions. Is it the word exam itself or is it what the word exam is associated with such as success or failure, the fear of the implications or the hard word that is required before-hand?
One thing is probably true, most people don’t respond positively to the idea of sitting an exam yet we all have to take them and the results will affect our future so wouldn’t it be so much better if we could reframe our reactions such that they are positive and empowering?
So let’s first face up to how we currently think of exams. Close your eyes and think about exams. Be aware of whether you’re getting images, sounds, feelings in your body.
If you’re getting images, where are you looking for them? If you’re looking up and to the left then you are remembering what happened last time you had an exam. If this was a bad experience or a bad result, think about whether this image is helping you prepare for the next exam. It isn’t. So instead, look up the the right and think about how you’d prefer the image to look. Picture a positive scenario, maybe you confidently answering the questions or you seeing the results up on the noticeboard and YEH you’ve done really well!
If you’re getting sounds, are they coming from your right or your left because again the same thing applies. If they’re sounds from the past (from your left) they may be your parents being annoyed with you or your teacher telling you that you will have to re-sit. Turn your attention to your right and focus on what you want to hear. Maybe you want to hear your mates telling you how well you’ve done.
If you experience feelings in your body, maybe butterflies in your stomach, a sick feeling, headaches or goose bumps then you’re probably looking down and to your right. Look up instead. This tends to subconsciously raise your spirits. Now think about something much more positive, something physical such as stroking your pet, hugging your girl/boyfriend, scoring a goal, running your personal best. As you think of that positive thing, anchor it by squeezing your earlobe. Do this a few times and you’ll be able to squeeze your earlobe when you think about exams and instead get a good feeling.
We can reframe negative things like exams by thinking about all the benefits of them. After all, they are the door to your future career or job, they will enable you to do what you desire in life and when you work hard you’ll never have to take this exam again, will you? They are an opportunity to show what you can do, an opportunity to show off your skills. Are you really going to let your negative thought processes get in the way of success? It is YOUR choice how you decide to feel about exams, no-one else’s. You are in control so make choices that will inspire you and motivate you to become the person you want to be in life.
I don’t know about you but I’m definitely sensing that it’s near the end of term! For those of you in other countries (I’m writing from the UK) you may already be on summer holidays. Here we enjoy the usual UK rainy summer weather as yet more cricket matches are cancelled because of soggy pitches. The ‘Remember to bring sun cream’ notice at the bottom of every match sheet makes us laugh as they so don’t need it! A brolly would be more useful and wet weather gear.
Anyway the teachers are busy writing reports and we are starting to think about the next term which starts in September because my son leaves his Primary School in a few weeks and will be starting his Secondary school. This has happened to coincide with me writing NLP for Tweens which is aimed at children of his age 10-13yrs to help them manage puberty and the transition from Primary to Secondary school. This is often accompanied by a house move so the book is packed full of tips on how your Tween can manage change.
One of the key ways I describe in the book is to think about what will be similar. It’s called ‘matching’. When we look for similarities we feel more at home and able to cope. As your child approaches a change in his life, remind them what the new situation will be similar to and point out another change they made that they adjusted well to. They need a ‘I can cope with change well’ attitude. Find common ground; perhaps the school looks similar, perhaps some of the children going there will be familiar, will they be playing some of the same sports?
You can find out more about how to prepare your child for change in my book ‘Be a happier parent with NLP’ .
If you want to give them something to read and get involved in NLP for Tweens is workbook style with fun quizzes and loads for them to fill in and think about.
You can buy all my books in my Bookshop but you can also find them on Amazon UK and Amazon US and the Book Depository where they offer Free shipping.
All my Engaging NLP books are for sale on this site for £4.99 plus P&P which is £2 less than the recommended retail price and less than the price on Amazon CLICK HERE to take a look.
I wrote these after writing Teach Yourself : Be a happier parent with NLP because I felt there was a need for more of a workbook style of NLP book aimed at specific needs
Back to Work
They are all quick reads for busy people who want to know how they can use NLP in their lives to tackle the sort of issues they have. The books are illustrated and offer helpful exercises you can do using the NLP techniques. Each exercise gives instructions and space to write down your thoughts.
The children’s book NLP for children is for you and your child to work through together. The ideal age for this is for a child aged about 4-11yrs and obviously a child aged 9-11yr can read and use the book on their own.
The teenage book is written for them to use to address issues they have around school or Uni, work, getting a job, peer group pressure, relationships and so on.
The Back to Work book is perfect for mums thinking about whether to go back to work or not or consider other options such as working freelance, starting their own business or taking on activities which may in time become businesses.
New Mums covers everything connected with pregnancy, childbirth and those early months giving you ways to manage tiredness, stress and the roller coaster of emotions we get at this time. I remember it well!
They are called Engaging NLP because they are workbooks and I want you to engage with them, use them and learn from them in a way I don’t feel existing NLP books can be used. Indeed the Teach Yourself book packed full as it is with everything you could possibly encounter as a parent, is a solid read and not a workbook despite it having exercises in it.
As well as being a mum of 4 children (now aged 11, 19, 22 and 23) and a former teacher, I am a Master Practitioner in NLP and a Trainer. I run workshops and offer NLP coaching on a one to one basis either face to face or via SKYPE or phone but I believe that by reading my books you will find the help you are looking for. If you still need some support please call me (01628 660618 or 00 44 1628 660618) or email me (firstname.lastname@example.org) or contact me via the contact form because the reason I write the books and work with children and teenagers (and their parents) is because I care and I want to empower you to be happier parents and for your children to have the skills at their fingertips to be happier children.
NLP has long been used in the workplace but I feel that it is an essential parenting tool because being a parent is, I believe, the most important role we have in life. What we do and say, how we behave and the beliefs we pass on to our children make an enormous impact. They are constantly changing as are we as we learn and experience new things. These books are there for you , to help you in this important role. If I can help you further just get in touch. I don’t charge for a quick phone call or email you know!
Click this LINK to take you to my bookshop where today you can buy all 6 Engaging NLP workbooks for £35 or its equivalent in your own currency.
The books are
NLP for Parents
NLP for Children
NLP for Teens
NLP for Teachers
NLP for New Mums
NLP for Back to Work (or setting up a business)
If you would prefer another book such as NLP for the 11+ or NLP for Young Drivers instead of any of these books as long as you order 6 and tell me which you want when you pay using PayPal or a Credit Card thenthe offer price of £35 still applies.
Imagine if every day you had a new inspiring thought to read on your way to work or on the school run? This is an NLP app. These are not quotes like the ones you see posted on Facebook every day although I admit, some of them do give me cause to smile and think. No these are bite size NLP skills and techniques. It’s like learning NLP in bite size chunks over the course of a year. They are expressed as something to do or think about based on an NLP principle. You don’t have to already know anything about NLP but you’ll know a great deal by the end of the year!
I now have an app on the market with a daily tip (NLP inspired of course). Whether you are already familiar with NLP or just curious, these tips will give you something to think about. They are not just designed for parents or for you as a parent but are personal (I don’t mean X -rated!) and will resonate with you whatever you do or are in life.
I enjoyed writing them and even now, familiar as I am with NLP, I check my app every day and look at the thought. They still connect with me because they are about who we are and that is constantly changing as we meet new people and have new experiences.
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Here is the Android link – Click HERE
Here is the Iphone/Ipad/Ipod link – Click HERE
Windows 7 – Click HERE
You can also download my books onto your smartphone and there’s an interview with me about NLP for Tweens on The NLP View . Click here to listen.
Nowadays we have such busy lives, take a few minutes each day to learn how NLP can keep you calmer, stay safer, get on with people around you and remain confident.