Special offers on my books!
All my Engaging NLP books are for sale on this site for £4.99 plus P&P which is £2 less than the recommended retail price and less than the price on Amazon CLICK HERE to take a look.
I wrote these after writing Teach Yourself : Be a happier parent with NLP because I felt there was a need for more of a workbook style of NLP book aimed at specific needs
Parents
Children
Teachers
Teenagers
New Mums
Back to Work
They are all quick reads for busy people who want to know how they can use NLP in their lives to tackle the sort of issues they have. The books are illustrated and offer helpful exercises you can do using the NLP techniques. Each exercise gives instructions and space to write down your thoughts.
The children’s book NLP for children is for you and your child to work through together. The ideal age for this is for a child aged about 4-11yrs and obviously a child aged 9-11yr can read and use the book on their own.
The teenage book is written for them to use to address issues they have around school or Uni, work, getting a job, peer group pressure, relationships and so on.
The Back to Work book is perfect for mums thinking about whether to go back to work or not or consider other options such as working freelance, starting their own business or taking on activities which may in time become businesses.
New Mums covers everything connected with pregnancy, childbirth and those early months giving you ways to manage tiredness, stress and the roller coaster of emotions we get at this time. I remember it well!
They are called Engaging NLP because they are workbooks and I want you to engage with them, use them and learn from them in a way I don’t feel existing NLP books can be used. Indeed the Teach Yourself book packed full as it is with everything you could possibly encounter as a parent, is a solid read and not a workbook despite it having exercises in it.
As well as being a mum of 4 children (now aged 11, 19, 22 and 23) and a former teacher, I am a Master Practitioner in NLP and a Trainer. I run workshops and offer NLP coaching on a one to one basis either face to face or via SKYPE or phone but I believe that by reading my books you will find the help you are looking for. If you still need some support please call me (01628 660618 or 00 44 1628 660618) or email me (judy@nlpkids.com) or contact me via the contact form because the reason I write the books and work with children and teenagers (and their parents) is because I care and I want to empower you to be happier parents and for your children to have the skills at their fingertips to be happier children.
NLP has long been used in the workplace but I feel that it is an essential parenting tool because being a parent is, I believe, the most important role we have in life. What we do and say, how we behave and the beliefs we pass on to our children make an enormous impact. They are constantly changing as are we as we learn and experience new things. These books are there for you , to help you in this important role. If I can help you further just get in touch. I don’t charge for a quick phone call or email you know!
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Special offer on Engaging NLP books!
Click this LINK to take you to my bookshop where today you can buy all 6 Engaging NLP workbooks for £35 or its equivalent in your own currency.
The books are
NLP for Parents
NLP for Children
NLP for Teens
NLP for Teachers
NLP for New Mums
NLP for Back to Work (or setting up a business)
If you would prefer another book such as NLP for the 11+ or NLP for Young Drivers instead of any of these books as long as you order 6 and tell me which you want when you pay using PayPal or a Credit Card thenthe offer price of £35 still applies.
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NLP apps for your phone!
I now have an app on the market with a daily tip (NLP inspired of course). Whether you are already familiar with NLP or just curious, these tips will give you something to think about. They are not just designed for parents or for you as a parent but are personal (I don’t mean X -rated!) and will resonate with you whatever you do or are in life.
I enjoyed writing them and even now, familiar as I am with NLP, I check my app every day and look at the thought. They still connect with me because they are about who we are and that is constantly changing as we meet new people and have new experiences.
I would be enormously grateful if you would post a review of the app and share it with your friends on Twitter or Linked In, Facebook etc
Here is the Android link – Click HERE
Here is the Iphone/Ipad/Ipod link – Click HERE
The Windows 7 one is on the way!
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Top 10 things you can do differently in 2012 to get the results you want with your children
- Focus your attention on what they do well.
What we focus on is what we get more of. Children need attention from you so give them attention when they do something well and they learn to do that thing more often as it gives them positive attention.
- Use a feedback sandwich.
When you want a change in behaviour comment first on what you like about them, then suggest what would be even better (what you’d like to see more of or less of) and finish on a good note; overall what you are pleased about.
- Tell them what you do want.
Using the word ‘don’t’ draws attention to what you don’t want them to do. Instead reword the instruction telling them what you want them to do.
- Avoid the word ‘try’ as it suggests they won’t succeed.
Just tell them to do it!
- Show them the behaviour you want.
Demonstrate by example how you want your child to behave. They learn from you!
- Keep your tone low and slow.
The more out of control you sound, the more they will tune out.
- Ask them what they think they should do.
Encourage them to work things out for themselves and be resourceful then use the feedback sandwich.
- Step into their shoes.
A child’s world is very different from ours. They are not deliberately being difficult they simply see things in a different way. Understand that way and you’ll have to key to influencing them.
- Be specific about feedback.
When commenting on what your child has done well, point out the specific skill or quality so they learn from the feedback rather than generalising.
- Decide whether they use a visual, auditory or kinaesthetic preference and match it.
Children have a preference whether they notice what they see, hear or do. Adapt your choice of words to match this and you will connect and communicate effectively.
Judy Bartkowiak is the author of Teach Yourself: Be a happier parent with NLP and the Engaging NLP series of workbooks. They are available on her website www.nlpkids.co.uk . Book an appointment on 01628 660618
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Are you feeling overwhelmed?
It is not unusual, especially for mums, to feel overwhelmed by the ceaseless juggling that is motherhood whether you work or not. Whether we use the metaphor of the juggler or the plate spinner we should be aware that both these are skills so difficult that people train hard and others are impressed when they witness the skill at a circus.
Let me tell you something you may not know about juggling. In order to successfully learn to juggle you have to learn how to drop a ball (or an apple!) I know this because this is what I found the hardest part of the skill. As a busy mum I found it impossible to deliberately drop something in order to complete the larger task of juggling.
This metaphor is relevant to our lives in that if you too want to successfully juggle you must drop something deliberately because you want to drop it and because you know in your heart that by doing that, you will succeed in the bigger picture of what you want to achieve.
But what will you drop?
Everything seems important when you feel overwhelmed doesn’t it?
How can you just ‘not do’ something?
People rely on you.
Your kids rely on you.
Your husband relies on you.
Your mum relies on you.
Your boss relies on you.
But hang on……………if you were ill what would they do? Surely unless you put yourself, your health and wellbeing, happiness, rest and relaxation in top spot you will be in no position to be relied on by anyone.
Stand back now and consider all you do and have to do this week.
Which ball will you drop so you can successfully juggle?
Instead of listing everything you ‘should do’ ask yourself “What could I do?” Give yourself choices. So look again at what is currently overwhelming you and ask.
What can you do?
What can you delegate?
And what can you dump?
Now let that ball drop and you will be able to juggle.
If you would like a FREE short chat about how NLP could help you – call me on 01628 660618 or email me judy@nlpkids.com
Read MoreThere Is No Failure Only Feedback – For Teachers
Feedback is the nature of the response we get from the class, an individual child, parent, a colleague or the Head. It can be a verbal comment, body language, an email or phone call. The feedback can be directly to you, overheard or passed on to you. The problem is not the feedback itself; the problem is how we react to it. So how can we as teachers improve the nature of the feedback we give?
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