Can working mums really have it all?
Never before has the demand for flexible working been so high. Mothers have always wanted it all but known that for most of us that means making compromises. If women have senior roles bearing responsibility for a team, manage projects worth thousands even millions of pounds, they feel that their juggling family and work in reduced hours means that they do not get the job done to their professional satisfaction. Then at the end of the day they rush home, juggle supervision of homework, cooking a meal, bath and bedtime before returning to their laptop or Blackberry to catch up on their work emails. They feel that not only are they failing at the one thing they feel confident in but they are now failing at being a mother too.
Is their another option?
Judy Bartkowiak’s book NLP Back to Work takes the principles of Neuro Linguistic Programming to explore areas such as identity, confidence, guilt, coping with change and limiting beliefs and treating failure as feedback.
Sensory Acuity is the way we internally represent our world. Are you visual, auditory or kinaesthetic? Do you like detail or big picture? Do you notice what works or what doesn’t work? Do you like choices? Are you goal driven or risk averse? In this book you will find out how you tick, what beliefs and values matter to you and how to overcome limiting beliefs using NLP techniques such as the Time Line, anchoring and Perceptual Positioning. All the exercises are easy to do, explained without jargon and the book is an easy read for busy mums.
In the Time Management section you will be invited to check whether what you do fits with your values and encourages you to delegate or do what fits and dump what does not fit.
There are plenty of ideas of jobs and businesses that are aligned to what you want from life at this time and suggestions of areas to explore on your own.
NLP Back to Work costs £6.99 in the shops or £5 if you get it from Judy’s NLP website by clicking HERE
If you’d like to book a SKYPE or telephone coaching session click HERE
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I wrote these after writing Teach Yourself : Be a happier parent with NLP because I felt there was a need for more of a workbook style of NLP book aimed at specific needs
Parents
Children
Teachers
Teenagers
New Mums
Back to Work
They are all quick reads for busy people who want to know how they can use NLP in their lives to tackle the sort of issues they have. The books are illustrated and offer helpful exercises you can do using the NLP techniques. Each exercise gives instructions and space to write down your thoughts.
The children’s book NLP for children is for you and your child to work through together. The ideal age for this is for a child aged about 4-11yrs and obviously a child aged 9-11yr can read and use the book on their own.
The teenage book is written for them to use to address issues they have around school or Uni, work, getting a job, peer group pressure, relationships and so on.
The Back to Work book is perfect for mums thinking about whether to go back to work or not or consider other options such as working freelance, starting their own business or taking on activities which may in time become businesses.
New Mums covers everything connected with pregnancy, childbirth and those early months giving you ways to manage tiredness, stress and the roller coaster of emotions we get at this time. I remember it well!
They are called Engaging NLP because they are workbooks and I want you to engage with them, use them and learn from them in a way I don’t feel existing NLP books can be used. Indeed the Teach Yourself book packed full as it is with everything you could possibly encounter as a parent, is a solid read and not a workbook despite it having exercises in it.
As well as being a mum of 4 children (now aged 11, 19, 22 and 23) and a former teacher, I am a Master Practitioner in NLP and a Trainer. I run workshops and offer NLP coaching on a one to one basis either face to face or via SKYPE or phone but I believe that by reading my books you will find the help you are looking for. If you still need some support please call me (01628 660618 or 00 44 1628 660618) or email me (judy@nlpkids.com) or contact me via the contact form because the reason I write the books and work with children and teenagers (and their parents) is because I care and I want to empower you to be happier parents and for your children to have the skills at their fingertips to be happier children.
NLP has long been used in the workplace but I feel that it is an essential parenting tool because being a parent is, I believe, the most important role we have in life. What we do and say, how we behave and the beliefs we pass on to our children make an enormous impact. They are constantly changing as are we as we learn and experience new things. These books are there for you , to help you in this important role. If I can help you further just get in touch. I don’t charge for a quick phone call or email you know!
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A happier pregnancy with NLP
If you’ve heard of NLP it’s probably been in the context of business where the principles of Neuro linguistic programming seem to be given more prominence because people associate the results with success in business relationships in management, selling and so on. In fact, NLP is extremely useful in family life and by applying the core principles we can achieve clearer communication of our needs and ensure they are met in an ecological way, that is to everyone’s benefit not just ours!
Whether your pregnancy is planned or unplanned, changes are happening to your body, your mind, your relationships and your future. So how can NLP help?
Well according to NLP we have the resources to do whatever we set our mind to but we may not realise it or recognise the resource. Let’s say for example that you are finding it difficult to keep the secret of your pregnancy at work and you’re afraid you will blurt it out to someone before you’re ready. So when you last had a secret how did you keep it? Maybe someone told you a secret about something and you kept it. How did you do that? What belief did you have about the secret? Do you hold that belief about the secret of your pregnancy? Could you hold that belief? If you change your belief you will change the behaviour associated with the belief.
Are you feeling worried about the birth? How have you coped with other similar events? Have you been able to overcome your worry about another event? How did you succeed in doing that? Could you try the same process this time?
It feels now as if what you are experiencing is all quite new and different and a bit scary. Try to find another situation where you had those feelings. Maybe you felt like this on the first day at a new school? Did you feel like this about your wedding day? What about the first day of a new important job?
Close your eyes and think about that time. Picture yourself before that time, a few days before the event and remember how you felt. What about just before, the day before the event, how did you feel then?
What about the actual event itself, how was that? Picture yourself right in the middle of the event at the very worse moment of it. Can you remember what you did and how you got through the day?
Now picture yourself a few days later. How do you look now, how do you feel? Can you notice anything about yourself after the scary feelings had passed? They do pass don’t they? You do have the resource to overcome the fear of change don’t you?
Lots of mums to be feel guilty that though they are excited about the baby they are worried about whether they will be ‘a good mum’. Again I want you to think about your resources. Take a piece of paper and a pen and write down a list of what you do well. You will have lots of different life experiences, work, friends, sport and so on. What do you do well in each of these situations? What would your friends say of you, what do your parents say of you? All of these skills will make you the good mum you want to be. There is no absolute model of what makes a good mum.
Now look at that list and think about how that quality you have identified could be useful and beneficial to you as a mum. Are you good at making people laugh? Are you kind to your friends? Are you someone they can rely on? Do you learn things quickly? Whatever the qualities are that make you who you are now – these will be what will make you a good mum.
Judy is the author of Teach Yourself: Be a happier parent with NLP and the Engaging NLP workbook NLP for New Mums. Both available at Buy NLP Books
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Special offer on Engaging NLP books!
Click this LINK to take you to my bookshop where today you can buy all 6 Engaging NLP workbooks for £35 or its equivalent in your own currency.
The books are
NLP for Parents
NLP for Children
NLP for Teens
NLP for Teachers
NLP for New Mums
NLP for Back to Work (or setting up a business)
If you would prefer another book such as NLP for the 11+ or NLP for Young Drivers instead of any of these books as long as you order 6 and tell me which you want when you pay using PayPal or a Credit Card thenthe offer price of £35 still applies.
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NLP apps for your phone!
I now have an app on the market with a daily tip (NLP inspired of course). Whether you are already familiar with NLP or just curious, these tips will give you something to think about. They are not just designed for parents or for you as a parent but are personal (I don’t mean X -rated!) and will resonate with you whatever you do or are in life.
I enjoyed writing them and even now, familiar as I am with NLP, I check my app every day and look at the thought. They still connect with me because they are about who we are and that is constantly changing as we meet new people and have new experiences.
I would be enormously grateful if you would post a review of the app and share it with your friends on Twitter or Linked In, Facebook etc
Here is the Android link – Click HERE
Here is the Iphone/Ipad/Ipod link – Click HERE
The Windows 7 one is on the way!
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If You Always Do What You’ve Always Done You Will Always Get What You’ve Always Got
How often do we as parents say the same things to our child and wonder when they will ever do what we’ve asked? We repeat ourselves and get more annoyed yet perhaps if we used different words, a lower pitch or different body language we would get the result we want.
I’ve started doing parenting workshops and already I’m getting great feedback from mums who attended.
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