Raising aspirations of girls
When it comes to raising aspirations of girls you could do no better than buying your daughter books in the Queens of Africa series.
They are each based on a famous ancient Queen of Africa; Queen Makeda, Queen Idia, Madame Tinubu, Queen Esther, Queen Amina, Queen Moremi. Three schoolgirls, Wuraola, Azeezah and Nneka feature in all the stories as they learn how each Queen has lessons for them in their life today. It could be about courage, integrity, loyalty, initiative, creativity, all qualities we want our girls to have.
These lovely stories will appeal to girls aged 8-11yrs. Younger girls will enjoy having the stories read to them and may be interested to collect the dolls when they are available later in 2013. At the moment you can buy the set at a special price via MX Publishing’s website by clicking here. The books are also available to read on your E reader wherever you usually buy your Ebooks.
The second series starts with Queens of Africa Learn Confidence which sees the girls learn how to do a Circle of Excellence, a key NLP (neuro linguistic programming) technique which is explained very simply. Readers can discover how even when initially they think they have no confidence, when they think about it and look in the right place, they have skills they have overlooked and undervalued. By anchoring these skills using this invaluable NLP technique they have a resource to use whenever they need it.
You can buy this book from MX Publishing or buy it as an Ebook .
Other books to follow in this series will be Queens of Africa learn to learn, Queens of Africa learn how to make friends, Queens of Africa learn how to control anger, Queens of Africa learn how to be healthy, Queens of Africa learn how to cope with change.
The Queens of Africa project raises money to support the education of black girls in Africa. It is anticipated that dolls will be available in time for Christmas. In the meantime, enjoy the books.
If these books raise issues for you or your daughter and you feel you need some help then contact me and we can arrange a counselling session via Skype. Judy Bartkowiak writes as JudyBee and is a qualified NLP Kids Practitioner and Trainer. You can see her other books here.
Read MoreConfidence for Kids
Confidence, or rather, lack of it, is probably the single most common problem that children are brought to me with nowadays. That’s why I wrote my latest Ebook ‘ Confidence for Kids’.
Isn’t it strange how much emphasis we place today on ensuring that our children do well at school, go on to University and get a good job? Only yesterday I was reading that there has been a huge increase in private tutoring to support children at GCSE and A’ Level stage over and above what they do in school. Yet, when we first meet someone we decide in seconds whether we want to be friends, indeed whether we even want to talk to them in the first place. The way our children present themselves will affect them in life. It will determine how quickly they will get their first job, who they make friends with, and how adults respond to them. How people respond and interact with them affects how they in turn see themselves and it determines their self-worth because like it or not, we are influenced by how others see us. We don’t live in a bubble, we live with other people who will take an instant like or dislike to us. Their attitude to us may change over time but in some situations we simply don’t get the time to put ourselves across again. There are jobs out there but employers are complaining that interviewees are not turning up on time for their interview, they aren’t dressed appropriately and can’t hold a conversation. In a nutshell, they don’t know how to present themselves in order to get the result they want.
What can we do about this as parents? Whether you are confident or not will affect how confident your children will be. This book will help you to build your own confidence and it will give you plenty of tips to boost your child’s confidence in different situations. They are appropriate for any age child or teenager.
The book is based on many years’ work coaching children and teenagers in my practice NLP Kids, running focus groups as a children’s Market Researcher and teaching. It will show you how to model confidence to your kids. After all, how will they learn how to be confident unless you show them what it looks, sounds like and how to act in a confident manner.
You will learn lots of ways to notice when your children are confident and how to comment on it so they learn from your feedback. You will learn how to use a confident way of speaking and confident words. How you look will affect how others perceive you before you open your mouth to speak so how can you create the impression you want and how can you encourage your children to do the same?
I have written a number of parenting and self-help books for families which you might like to read if you find this one helpful. I would particularly recommend ‘Be a happier parent with NLP’ and the Engaging NLP series of workbooks including NLP for Children, NLP for Tweens, NLP for Teens, NLP for Parents, NLP for Teachers.
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Read MorePositive Parenting EBook
As parents we are the greatest influence on how our children will develop and who they will become as adults. It is our job to guide them by example, which in NLP we call ‘modelling’.
Our children watch us and learn from us. They take on our values and beliefs in the early years and then gradually, as they have their own experiences, they form their own values and beliefs.
What we say and how we say it during these crucial childhood years are the outward expressions of our values and beliefs. It is important to understand that we have choices and that what we say and do, makes a difference.
One example is to take a positive approach. Many parents I have coached have noticed a significant difference when they tell their child what they do want rather than what they don’t want. Have a go and experience the difference!
Similarly, why give your child the idea they have a choice when they don’t? Use the word ‘when’ rather than ‘if’ and you’ll be more effective.
NLP gives you the tools and techniques with which to make these choices so you can influence and guide your children in the direction that will allow them to achieve.
They are usually applied in the workplace in the area of management skills, leadership, rapport and negotiation which, let’s face it, we parents certainly need! Our children will need these skills too as they make their way in an ever more challenging and competitive world.
‘Being the change’ means that instead of expecting to get a different result when you do the same thing, you will get a different result when you do something different. So YOU are the change.
What you do and say makes a difference to the results you get so Neuro Linguistic Programming is a way of life, a new and different, positive approach to the way we communicate and how we interpret the way others communicate with us both verbally and non-verbally.
The only way to make effective changes in our life is to engage with this new way and incorporate it daily into everything we do.
At home, at work or at play, whether we are a child, a teenager or an adult, we can make new choices about how we live our life so that we achieve all we wish for in our friendships, relationships and our own state of well-being and happiness.
Engage with NLP and see, hear and feel the difference immediately. You will improve your self-esteem, how you get on with people and your effectiveness both as a parent and in all the other areas of your life.
As you incorporate NLP into your parenting, your children will pick it up too and learn how to get the positive learning and more effective communication for themselves.
Learn how to teach them NLP so they can reframe negative experiences so they learn from them and set compelling outcomes for school, home and socially.
Positive Parenting is about focusing on what’s working, what’s going well and extracting the structure so we can get more of it.
As parents we often feel we’ve failed because we focus on what’s not working. When we change our focus we can get a different and better result.
NLP is a completely different way of viewing your world. Once you have been introduced to the NLP way of thinking and communicating it will seem like you’ve come home. It is respectful of others and more importantly of yourself and it is positive.
John Grinder and Richard Bandler developed, what they came to call NLP, from a combination of Virginia Satir’s Family Therapy, Franz Perls’ Gestalt Therapy and the work of Milton Erickson in the area of language patterns.
What Grinder and Bandler added was the idea of coding excellence. They studied how successful and effective people communicated and formulated some ground rules that would bring these results to anyone who applied them. These ground rules are what we call NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming.
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NLP for Kids
Children totally ‘get’ NLP they don’t need persuading and because they find themselves totally fascinating anything which allows them to find out more about themselves is a great gift. My book NLP for Children is my best selling book. Why? Because children can write and draw in it. This is NLP for kids. They can find out whether they are visual, auditory or kinaesthetic and they can work out whether they do things because
- they like choices or just want to get on with it
- it’s what they want or it avoids what they don’t want
- they have the detail or concept
- others are doing it or it just feels right to them
This information helps them to understand why they work better for some teachers rather than others and why sometimes they do what they’re told and other times they don’t.
It gives them some great techniques for coping with fear and uncertainty, for managing those bad and angry feelings they sometimes get and how to make friends and keep them.
This book is great for children aged 5-10yrs. You’ll have to help children at the younger end of this age range of course but older children will manage fine on their own.
You can buy it for £6.99 signed by me, the author from my website
If your child is 11-14yrs NLP for Tweens would be better and those aged 15yrs + would learn a lot from NLP for Teens. They’re all available from my bookshop and of course from Amazon, Barnes and Noble etc The Book Depository sells them with free shipping.
Read MoreHow can Tweens benefit from NLP?
In this interview you will find out how Tweens (aged 10-13yrs) benefit from applying NLP tools and technique to their daily life in order to have an increased sense of self-worth, confidence and be the best they can be in their schoolwork and relationships.
If you missed the interview I gave on Blogtalk Radio this weekend you can catch it here it’s my first interview on the radio so I was a bit nervous but soon got into the swing of it as you’ll hear.
I was interviewed by Donna Blinston on her programme The Organic View about NLP for Tweens, my new book.
We probably talked just as much though about how NLP can be used by parents to stay calm and in control. I don’t mean control in a negative sense of course. I mean in control of our temper, emotions and our language. I’ve spoken to lots of parents who struggle to keep their temper especially when their child knows just the right ‘buttons’ to press. My book ‘Be a happier parent with NLP‘ covers this in some detail but if you want more of a quick fix read NLP for Parents.
One of the main problems Tweens have is confidence and this is especially problematic as they change schools and their schooling starts to become more serious. At the same time they are coping with body changes and making friends rather than simply playing with everyone. For a few years their confidence is quite fragile; good one minute and really low the next. NLP for Tweens shows them how to manage this, recognise signs of stress and cope with the mood swings typical of this hormonal stage.
Here’s a really good review of the book on Amazon.
Hooray! At last! I have been looking for a NLP book for this age group for a while. My daughter is 11 and often pops along to the NLP meetings with me, she then dabbles in my book collection, but they are all too wordy and complicated for her to understand.
In this book Judy Bartkowiak shows Tweens that they have Choices. The book is set out in workbook style for children to work through. It has short quizzes which enable the reader to understand ‘how they work’. It explains NLP and the choices it gives, in a language that they understand and can relate to.
This book gives examples of everyday situations that Tweens encounter that they may find challenging, Judy then explains the NLP techniques and tools to aid them. These interventions are very easy to follow, with a sense of fun. She encourages a positive mindeset with a ‘can do’ attitude, covering areas such as Goal Setting, Confidence, Schoolwork, Friendships, Personal responsibility, self-belief and weight issues. Tweens learn how to Anchor a positive state, Time Line, Circle of Excellence, Swish pattern, and lots of other useful NLP techniques.
So glad that I found this book whilst my daughter is that age. She is loving it and has already informed me that she is a ‘little chunker, likes choices and works towards things’! A definate must for those little NLPers!
In the interview I talk a lot about NLP and why it works so well with kids and I hope you listen to it and share my enthusiasm.
If you’d like to have a consultation on SKYPE you can connect with me via this website or add me judy.bartkowiak and pay for the consultation HERE
If you are already trained in NLP and want to become an NLP Kids Practitioner you can sign up for my Distance Learning Course HERE
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Great review of NLP for Tweens
I’ve just read a lovely review of NLP for Tweens on Amazon that I’d like to share with you.
Hooray! At last! I have been looking for a NLP book for this age group for a while. My daughter is 11 and often pops along to the NLP meetings with me, she then dabbles in my book collection, but they are all too wordy and complicated for her to understand.
In this book Judy Bartkowiak shows Tweens that they have Choices. The book is set out in workbook style for children to work through. It has short quizzes which enable the reader to understand ‘how they work’. It explains NLP and the choices it gives, in a language that they understand and can relate to.
This book gives examples of everyday situations that Tweens encounter that they may find challenging, Judy then explains the NLP techniques and tools to aid them. These interventions are very easy to follow, with a sense of fun. She encourages a positive mindeset with a ‘can do’ attitude, covering areas such as Goal Setting, Confidence, Schoolwork, Friendships, Personal responsibility, self-belief and weight issues. Tweens learn how to Anchor a positive state, Time Line, Circle of Excellence, Swish pattern, and lots of other useful NLP techniques.
So glad that I found this book whilst my daughter is that age. She is loving it and has already informed me that she is a ‘little chunker, likes choices and works towards things’! A definate must for those little NLPers!
You can buy the book from Amazon UK Amazon US The Book Depository
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